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I’m not immune to the stuff that makes life feel deflated. I fall prey to the things my clients do: forgetting our milestone wins, getting overwhelmed, and letting doubt and insecurity into the writing room.

Luckily I believe in walking my talk. I don’t ask my clients to do anything I don’t do myself. So as I prepare to lead Annual Review for Creatives, I pulled the productivity bus over to get a view of the bigger picture. And boy, am I glad I did.

Somehow stuff that happened in the early part of the year got into the way back. I had to use some of the methods I teach in Annual Review for Creatives to recall that I had:

• Drafted my book, Design Your Creative Life
• Was a reader for the Courage to Write grant
• Took two writing classes
• Designed a coaching workshop around my book, The Busy Woman’s Guide to Writing a World-Changing Book
• FINALLY got my coaching work around values and themes into a workshop – Your Creative DNA.
• Drafted a novel! Complete surprise.

These are just a few of the things I designed, wrote, or manifested this year. If I had not taken the time to write it all down, I would have thought this year was ‘meh’ creatively. But instead, I realize it’s been one of the best years of my life. I feel empowered to keep going on the books I drafted this year and do other projects.

Make your year feel even better with a reflection process. This will help you feel a sense of wonder, appreciation and gratitude for what you’ve done, however small.

Reserve your spot in the Annual Review for Creatives workshop here.

I recently signed up for an online course delivered by email. It was a seven-day program, and it didn’t cost much. I was excited about it. But guess what? Guess how many days of the program I actually showed up for? You’re right – three. You probably guessed this because you have likely done this yourself.

While it seems like a good idea to be able to take a class on your own, often we flake out on it. I don’t blame myself or beat myself up about it – and I don’t judge you, either. I just think it’s a flaw in the way people are delivering their good content now. To get more people into the program, they sacrifice an actual connection with the people they’re serving.

I think this is the biggest problem with online learning today. Self-study, on-demand programs can be great, and sure, some of us manage to work through a self-guided class all on our own. More often, though, we don’t set ourselves up to do the work. What originally seemed like a good idea becomes yet another thing you didn’t do. It becomes a drain on your vital life energy. Even free courses can become a drag if you don’t show up to do the work.

I prefer to spend time with the people I’m helping. That’s why most of my workshops are live or include time with me. I’ve got one coming up I want to be sure you know about, because it’s truly life-changing and I love teaching it.

One of my favorite workshops is the Annual Review for Creatives. We get to take a ‘mini-retreat’ together to reflect on the year and all we’ve done. This program is designed specifically for creative people. It’s all too easy to let our writing or art-making efforts go under the radar.

In this workshop, we give ourselves credit for all the ways we showed up for our creative selves. It’s fun, empowering and effective. And it’s live!

We meet on Friday, December 9th for three hours. I’ll guide you through my process for making the most of the year. I’ll also share some of my highlights from 2022, including surprises and wins I didn’t plan at the outset.

Get your seat here. And if for some reason you cannot make the live event, you can access the recordings and handouts through December 31, 2022.

If you’re like me, when you travel, you get a ton of inspiration. When I lead writing and creativity workshops, I invite people to gather their inspiration in one place. I call this ‘Flashes of Inspiration’. It’s a page at the back of my notebook where I write down all the wacky ideas I get. I don’t worry about feasibility or whether I will ever implement these ideas. It’s easier to find these gems later when they’re all in one place.

As a coach, I am about actionable ideas. There’s a point where more ideas aren’t really good. We creative types can easily get overwhelmed and then just do nothing. 

But while walking with my group in Paris, I reconsidered the value of ideas. Whenever I get an idea, I think to myself, “This is a GREAT idea!” I am full of enthusiasm, possibility, and joy. It doesn’t really matter if the idea is good or actionable. What if just the idea in itself, that blip of SQUEEE!! Is enough? What if we didn’t have to take action on everything?

I get joy from looking at my Flashes of Inspiration list. I typed up the ideas I got while leading Paris Sketchbook and Write Your Heart Out in Paris. The last item on the list is where my coach or project manager wants to come in. Do I need to make this list actionable? Probably not. Usually, things that rise to the top of the priority list get done. Sometimes, years later, you will pick up a list and see you’ve done most of them. 

Here’s my list, shared with you, with all the wild and whackery of it, in no particular order. 

1. Invite a ‘focus’ group of people for different sections of the book, most specifically ‘space’. “Listening party” (from Krista Tippett)
2. Paint my one small wall with chalkboard paint and do patterns on it. Or paint a pattern on the wall. (recurring inspiration)
3. Go back to the Portugal romance – fictionalize it and make it fun. 
4. Write the Portugal novel as a graphic novel. 
5. Digitize the Paris coffee books – aka take photos and put them into Notion so when I am in Paris I can use it. 
6. Grow an indoor herb garden in the winter. 
7. Make some kind of art or sculpture from Steve’s matchbooks – what would be a cool way to display them? 
8. Print photo stickers for the sketchbook. 
9. Resume meditation practice!
10. Write up Gigia’s melon ball apple trick and send it to Cook’s Illustrated. 
11. Never eat molten chocolate cake again. 
12. Take a romance novel writing class. 
13. Take a graphic novel writing class. 
14. Go back to healthy eating!
15. Sign up for the swim class. 
16. Write 10 jokes a day. 
17. List and illustrate 100 things from my favorite Paris market. 
18. Try more abstract paintings. 
19. Do a giant painting for the living room and frame it in a gold frame. 
20. Turn Write Your Heart Out in Paris into a class or ebook (or it actually belongs in current WIP).
21. Something about Chardon – do a painting or write a bit about it. 
22. Do a book of all my illustrated city alphabets. 
23. Use Smart and Soul website for professionals who want to write personal projects. 
24. Illustrated series – sinks of Paris. They are so tiny and cute. 
25. When in Paris, have projects to do. Like when I researched and wrote a historical novel. 
26. Get a better tone for my phone and ipad timer. 
27. Make that dance mix I keep talking about. 
28. Set up a call with Andrea to talk about pattern design. 
29. Study French more. 
30. Hire a creativity coach. 
31. Write a novel about the weekend in France during NaNoWriMo. 
32. Do NaNoWriMo about the novel in France. 
33. Submit my illustrated journey blessings to a travel magazine like Afar. 
34. Gather my photos into a Dropbox folder. 
35. Choose which of these things I will do and when. 

How do you capture and take action on the inspiration when you get while traveling? Share your secrets below.

Have you ever been pulled away from a project? Perhaps you feared it was over and you wouldn’t get back to it. I know the feeling!

Now that I am back from France, it’s time to focus on my book. I took a hiatus during the summer and early fall. Turns out it’s a lot of work and focus required to lead two workshops in France! I didn’t have any bandwidth to focus on the book. 

Sure, I have been thinking about my book and making notes about it. But I haven’t been driving it forward the way I would like. 

This happens all the time – our steady going on our projects gets interrupted. Life will always throw us a distraction or something that we cannot avoid. 

It can be distressing to be pulled away from our work. But a break doesn’t have to mean a breakup. Here are a couple of suggestions to make getting back into the groove easier. 

Invite a deeper trust. Know that you will get back into it. Connect to the reason why you do it in the first place. Trust that you and your project won’t be done until the project itself is done. 

Relinquish any angst or self-recriminiation about taking a pause. It’s just life. It’s not you or your lack of discipline. Okay, maybe it is, but you will know the difference between procrastination and an unavoidable interruption. 

If you can, give yourself a return date. I knew I wouldn’t be doing any work on it until I came back from France. So I gave myself the return date of October 24th. I’m using the Atelier to help me with weekly accountability. 

Getting back into a project you’ve been away for can be daunting. Where to start? I suggest a 15-minute date with your project. 

Give yourself a short period of time to get acquainted. Don’t expect yourself to produce anything. Just get in touch with it. Read over what you’ve written. See what’s next. Give yourself the chance to get excited about it again. Before you know it, you will have clarity on the next steps. Set yourself up for a work session to do those next things. 

Make the return graceful, not stressful. What has helped you come back to a project? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

I wish it weren’t true but sometimes you will HATE writing your book.

I used to think that when we love our topic, we should love writing about it.

And that writing a book should be a great adventure, start to finish.

I was writing yet another draft of my novel. I had to take a walk to air out my thoughts. OMG this is so HARD, I remember thinking.

I was learning as I went how to craft a story. DUH! How would I know how to write a novel? Only by doing it – badly.

On the walk, a voice in my head replied to my whiney “It’s so HARD!” with “Yes, it’s hard. So? You can learn anything.”

Knowing book writing is hard work invited my values of learning, curiosity, and challenge to rise up. Now, for all 9 books I’ve written, whenever it got hard, I didn’t cave in. I leaned in.

Normalizing the work of writing a book is one of the biggest gifts I give my clients. And now you have it. You’re welcome.

Have you given up on your book or major body of work because you mistake the ‘hard’ work of writing to be a fault of your own?

Share your thoughts in the comments below.

I like to think that each of us has a predominant feeling tone. We see this tone reflected in our writing or creative work. We connect with it through other’s art: movies, music, art often allows us to experience our feeling tone.

My feeling tone is a blend of melancholy/hope/joy. I love things that bring a sense of the poignancy of life to the forefront. Life is a mixed bag, right? It’s sad and hopeful and gorgeous and funny all at once.

Art gives me a way to honor that blend of feelings. We started watching a show called This Is Us. We’ve been trying to avoid getting into TV shows because, well, you know. You get hooked. The next thing you know you’re watching every night.

I ask myself what is it that pulls me in? It’s wanting to be in that world. To experience that feeling tone.

This Is Us is a show with wonderful characters, all flawed, all fully human, all doing their best to be themselves. The themes revolve around parenting, being a sibling, and being successful at what we care most about.

We just love it. It’s a sweet show, and with all the trouble in the world and the other dark stuff we have been watching (Ozark), This Is Us is the show I need right now.

Turns out we have tuned into this program just as it’s coming to the finale of its 6-season run. Steve came into the studio the other day to announce,“Sweetie. There are 150 episodes of the show.” I thought, Great! That’s a year of nightly watching. OY VEY!

What words describe your feeling tone in your art and life? What shows, music or art reflect that feeling tone back to you? Share in the comments below.

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