What to do when you’ve achieved your goals? How to let yourself dream really big without scaring yourself into inaction?
I’m fortunate to have achieved many of my goals – publishing my novel, leading workshops in Europe, falling in love with a beautiful man, making and selling my art. Fortunate and, let’s face it, I work my butt off, too.
Sounds great, right? But what happens when you get the things you want? What now? There’s a time of wondering and ruminating. Of savoring all the goodness that’s here. This is needed, and there’s always more.
Not more from a place of greed. Or of amassing more stuff. More because I can do and be more. Because accomplishing my goals shows me that I have the skills, tools, allies and assets to make more creative dreams come to life. But what’s next?
So obvious, I call it the ‘duh’ dream.
When asking the question, “What do I want to do now?”, I caught myself doing what my clients do – saying “I don’t know.” But I believe we do know what we want. Most of the time the seed of a dream has been inside us for a long time. We haven’t watered it, tended it or believed we can do it.
I sat myself down with my notebook and started exploring ideas. And it came to me…the thing I really want to do. The idea that I have had since 2002. The thing that I have done in baby steps and loved. The thing that, when I tell friends about it, they say “Duh!”
I turned 50 this summer – yes, I was born in the summer of LOVE! A milestone birthday like this can really motivate us, right? I have been much more motivated to go for the dreams that I have long held.
I’m not ready to announce my ‘duh’ dream yet. But I have been going camping more, I’m engaged to the man of my dreams, and I’m gifting myself a big trip to Japan to celebrate my inner artist and my creative life.
No more deferring our dreams!
What’s your ‘duh dream’? The thing that’s been lurking in you and around you? The thing that when you admit it, a full-body fission passes through you saying Hell YES! along with a Hell Gulp. Share your ‘duh! dream’ below!