Here’s the scenario:
I spend the holiday season with my loved ones, just the right amount of time with family, just the right amount of time with friends.
Interesting and lovely holiday music plays in the background. Enticing smells float from the kitchen. We play games of Scrabble and charades and I always win. We go for walks and practice yoga together and feel great in our bodies.
We share lots of great conversation and laughs. It’s great to catch up and share the season with each other. We also have just enough alone time to process the glory and to recharge.
The gift giving – if any – is perfect. Perfect gifts all around, perfect amount of money spent. Actually, scratch that. No gift giving. The gifts we give are our attention and love.
We eat healthy, beautifully prepared food, and here’s the best thing: we eat with caloric impunity.
Perhaps we watch a movie at night or go for a long walk.
This is not the holiday season I usually have.
Why not? Because the holiday season is about connecting with others, and that means some external compromise. But it doesn’t mean you have to compromise what’s really important to you.
Enjoying life on your own terms
Does enjoying live life on your own terms make you selfish? We’re not talking about having all your external stuff handled perfectly. We’re not talking a wrinkle-free life.
So what do I mean ‘live life on your own terms’? I means knowing:
- yourself deeply, so your conversations are authentic to you and your truth.
- what fuels you, so you don’t waste your precious life in draining situations.
- where you want to make an impact, so your creative time is meaningful and satisfying.
- what feeds you, so the food and information you consume contributes to your creativity and well-being.
- who you cherish so you can spend quality time with them.
Your own terms is less about managing the external environment and more about owing and accepting your internal environment. This deep level of self-awareness and self-trust will inform your experience no matter what your external reality.
What are your own terms? How do you stay in alignment with yourself in all and any circumstances?